Proprioception Problems – Push Against a Wall or Connect with Your Passion? Your Choice

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What is Proproception?

Proprioception is the ability to feel our connection with the world around us – whether that is the chair we are sitting on or the pair of scissors we are cutting with. Or is it? Could it run a lot deeper than that? Could it actually be rooted in our connection or disconnection with ourselves?

My son who is 11 and I both have proprioception problems (in terms of struggling to feel our connection with the physical world) but we both reject standard forms of therapy such as lifting weights or pushing ourselves against a wall. if we try these things we find we actually feel worse.  On a deeper level we seem to feel an emptiness and feel more disconnected than ever.

So what should we do?

We need to find a different way to feel connected. We need to stop being too concerned about the strange feelings of our struggle with proprioception and find better feelings. And the better feelings are always about connecting with ourselves. And they are always 3 things:

Connecting with our voices

Connecting with our hearts

Connecting with our power to be ourselves.

And when we do that there are things that we enjoy more than anything else and that fill us to the brim more than anything else and these are RELATIONSHIP and CREATIVITY.

When we are spending time with someone we find warm, engaging and interesting and are actively contributing to that experience we feel GOOD

When we tune into our intuition and do something creative straight from our hearts we feel GOOD.

So . . .push against a wall or connect with your passion? . . . YOUR CHOICE!

 

Who Shall I be? ME – just ME!

flowerI have always wanted to BE something. I thought if I could just BE something then I would feel ok about myself and others would be happy with me.

So what should I be? Shall I be the music teacher as I have a musical gift? Should I be the artist as I have a desire to express my childlike spirit? Should I be a healer so I can feel part of other people’s positive change? What shall I be?

ME – just ME!  The person who gets up in the morning and says to God “What shall I do today?” The person who looks out of the window and gets carried away with seeing a flock of crows perched on the branches of our big tree or the pounding of the rain on our driveway . . .the person who may pick up a musical instrument only if it feels ok to feel the strings, sense the rhythm and hear the tones TODAY  . . .the person who is looking for a hug and kind words by 10:00 in the morning . . . the person who finds the green of the grass too bright some days, doesn’t like crowds or parties and loves chocolate truffles . . the person who likes to scoot around the park wearing her purple coat and summer beanie. . . the person who loves to help others when her own world is calm and organised enough for her to do so . . . 

Who should I be? – ME – just ME!

Deep Feelings – Processing for Others!

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Have you ever had a situation where you have gone through something traumatic and your child seems to have ‘picked up’ your feelings . Maybe after the event you notice a change in their behaviour or they seem fatigued or distanced. Below is a simple way that you can help your child process trauma or difficult situations – either their own experiences or other peoples’

Our story:  ‘Healing Mum’s Trauma’

I had an implant and Luca (8)  was in the waiting room. This conversation took place 4 days after the event.

Jennie (Mum): What’s the matter? You don’t seem right today?

Luca: I think I have caught your dentist time. It has got stuck in me and I can’t get it out.

Jennie (Mum) : Oh dear, I wonder how you could let go of that.  Could you draw or paint it out?

Luca: I don’t think I can let go of it because if I let it out it will smash.

Jennie (Mum): Why would it smash? What does this thing look like?

Luca: It is like a rock in a tube.

Jennie (Mum): Become the rock. What does it feel like to be the rock?

Luca: Well, I am made from lots of different things and trying to protect myself

Jennie (Mum) What are you trying to protect?

Luca: My core.

Jennie (Mum) What does it feel like to be your core?

Luca: I’m a pebble.

Jennie (Mum) Why are you trying to protect your core?

Luca: Because then I won’t feel any bad feelings.

Jennie (Mum): Is this about me going to the dentist

Luca: Yes, I think so.

Jennie (Mum): Maybe it’s OK to feel those feelings. Maybe you’re processing them for me. I had a little cry after the dentist. Maybe you need a little cry too. Perhaps you felt my pain.

Luca: Yes, I think I did.(looking weepy and as if he is trying to hold in tears)

Jennie (Mum): It’s ok to cry. When we have a hard shell things can hurt us and puncture us but when we are soft, sharp things can’t get through. They still touch us but they just go ping, we go ‘Ah’  and they fall to the ground.

Luca laughs

Jennie (Mum): After all the softest membrane is the strongest of them all!

To read more about this way of working with your sensitive child and how to heal or help others heal by embracing the power of vulnerability please read my book ‘The Beauty of Vulnerability – Being Healed & Being a Healer’