I learnt a big lesson from my 10 year old son today.
He is not seeing colour well so we bought him some enchroma glasses. He said the outdoor ones were too strong so we bought him some indoor ones. He tried them out today and thankfully he said things looked better. I started asking him about colour and he said “Don’t ask me about colour. Colour doesn’t matter. It just matters that I feel better.”
I just thought this was an amazing thing to say. As someone with Irlen Syndrome, colour doesn’t always look great to me. I’m bothered and disappointed. But today I realised, like my son, that colour doesn’t matter. What matters is that I feel ok,
“So I can’t connect with colour today . . .then I have to find my connection and my sense of security deeper down in myself.”
“So I can’t connect with pattern today and see the big picture clearly . . . then I have to feel my deeper rhythm and my deeper sense of purpose.”
Maybe this is why some of us struggle to connect in the ways that others easily connect – because we have to dig that little bit deeper!
I guess many of you have you seen the Enchroma videos on You Tube where colour blind people experience seeing colour clearly for the first time – well, here is ours’!
Our son who is 10 now, has experienced all sorts of sensory issues but we had no idea he could be colour blind. He took a test on the internet and said he couldn’t see all the colours. I still dismissed it but we decided to take him for a test at the opticians. 2 days before we went I thought I would check how he saw colour. That was when our eyes were opened. He seems to see a dark and murky world full of blacks, browns and funny blue – like grey or black (which he dislikes intensely) and white. He speaks of things being dim and getting dimmer as the seasons progress from summer through to winter. We didn’t understand why he would dread the summer and cry when he saw a heatwave on the weather forecast. He didn’t like to see the big blue sky. It turns out he also dislikes autumn as there are too many colours and he even struggles with Christmas.
It hurts inside as I write this but I think it should be ‘out there’. Our son didn’t show as having any standard colour blindness in the tests he took. He is extremely sensitive to light but we didn’t find any help down the Irlen Syndrome route. And so out of sheer desperation we tried some Enchroma glasses. And at last . . . see a little light at the end of the tunnel.
Now we are well into Autumn in the UK the Enchroma outdoor glasses aren’t working. They only work in bright light so we are saving up for the Enchroma indoor ones.
I hope you enjoy our Enchroma video!
It’s October. I live off intensity!
I have always wanted to BE something. I thought if I could just BE something then I would feel ok about myself and others would be happy with me.
So what should I be? Shall I be the music teacher as I have a musical gift? Should I be the artist as I have a desire to express my childlike spirit? Should I be a healer so I can feel part of other people’s positive change? What shall I be?
ME – just ME! The person who gets up in the morning and says to God “What shall I do today?” The person who looks out of the window and gets carried away with seeing a flock of crows perched on the branches of our big tree or the pounding of the rain on our driveway . . .the person who may pick up a musical instrument only if it feels ok to feel the strings, sense the rhythm and hear the tones TODAY . . .the person who is looking for a hug and kind words by 10:00 in the morning . . . the person who finds the green of the grass too bright some days, doesn’t like crowds or parties and loves chocolate truffles . . the person who likes to scoot around the park wearing her purple coat and summer beanie. . . the person who loves to help others when her own world is calm and organised enough for her to do so . . .
Who should I be? – ME – just ME!
Feeling insecure for a reason that feels outside of your control doesn’t always equal fear
Feeling easily stressed or overloaded by small things doesn’t always equal anger
Feeling helpless and unable to change something doesn’t always equal guilt.
But it can appear as this to those that are close to us. Maybe they pick up that deep down this is how we are perceiving ourselves.
Is it time to let yourself off the hook?
When I had my first diagnostic for Irlens I chose a tint that would stop the glare but not change too much else. I didn’t want to admit to myself that there was much wrong with my view of the world. And I didn’t want to take my glasses off and feel that things appeared worse than with them on.
However after struggling with my first tint for 3 weeks I realised there was something wrong. I was still feeling tense and out of sorts. So I had another diagnostic and this time I decided to push the boat out and look for something new – something better. After going through most of the box as before and saying ‘not right’, ‘too strong’ to most of them, we chanced on a pair of rust coloured tints (still in the neutral section.) I put these to my eyes and remember saying to my diagnostican ‘Wow, what is in these things?’ and I said ‘Wow’ quite a few more times! I asked what colour the lenses were putting back and I was told they weren’t putting anything back, just balancing the colours. Whatever they were doing, I knew I had to have these lenses!
When my lenses arrived I still felt ‘Wow’. When I wear them I feel taller, more confident, happier, more grounded and that my diaphragm opens up. The really amazing thing is, though, that I feel cosier and warmer, having had a temperature problem for my whole life. I actually feel that things are a tiny bit closer together (almost imperceptible and yet I feel it). I also feel that I want to be closer to things like a table or a work surface in the kitchen. I feel as if my depth perception has changed but more than this, my new experience of colour is drawing me more into to the world when I used to be of a hands off person. I didn’t realise that the colour of the work surface was repelling me – not good when you want to cook and wash the dishes! I didn’t realise that the corner shop felt miles away because my feeling associated with colour changed my perception of distance. This explains why I have suffered with separation anxiety even as an adult.
So what is in my lenses? Obviously a colour I needed to help me see the warmth in the world!
We all react in different ways to our life experiences and these reactions become habitual. For example providing that as a child we have experienced comfort when we have been frightened, as an adult we will naturally self-comfort or ask for comfort in a similar situation. In our bodies and ourselves we will immediately feel better. However if we weren’t comforted as a child our reaction will be the opposite – we will have no natural reaction to self comfort and will repel comfort from others. In our bodies we will feel tense and out of sorts. Somewhere within ourselves we hold the memory of an event that happened to us way back in our past.
We need healing when we hold negative memories which block our ability to enjoy the positives in ourselves and our lives.
To find out more about how could help you heal / move forwards in your life / find your purpose please go to Healing Sessions or Healing for Children