Creative Intuitives and The Energy of The Arts

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Creative intuitives  have a need to express themselves from their hearts. However it is not as easy as it might seem. We can’t just decide we would like to play some music today or paint or dance. Even if we are inspired, it might not work for us because it all depends on how our energy feels today, the energy of the space we are in, the dynamics of the people that we are with and the energy of the season. I know . . by the time you have felt into this lot you are too tired to be expressive anyway! 

I run sessions for children and adults who are creative and intuitive. As you might imagine, they are unpredictable! On one occasion I was working with my son and his friend.  I planned to do some movement with some techno music but when I started the activity I could see that the boys were finding something ‘too much’ about it – the movement, the music, each other’s energy . . . and I quickly realised it wasn’t working.  So I offered painting instead and after a little encouragement the boys accepted this as a good alternative. They decided they wanted to paint a peacock and after a little google research for images, they were away.  The energy in the room became calm and focused and we all felt we could breathe again! 

Now I am not saying that art is always the answer. It isn’t. Sometimes you can make the art fit your energy – you can paint big and wild or small and contained – but sometimes you can’t paint at all. 

 

 

 

Budding Visionaries and Music – They Don’t Need You to Be Musical

I come from a musical family and am musical myself. We have lots of instruments around in our home. However I go through long periods of times when I might not pick an instrument up. And when I do I don’t do anything by the book. I will likely fiddle around with my guitar and try to write a song or play my violin to a backing track that inspires me. So Luca grew up with music around him but not really immersed in it.  

When he was 4 we decided to buy Luca a violin as this is one of the instruments I play.  It is not an easy instrument to hold  let alone play! And if you don’t hold it reasonably correctly you find you can’t play it at all! This was a sticking point for Luca. He didn’t see why he should have to try so hard just to make a sound on a wooden box with some hair on a stick! So the violin went back into its box and stayed there!

All the other instruments that Luca plays on his videos (please see below,) he picks up himself with no prompting from us.  We had a ukelele on the wall, an old harmonica in a cupboard, a set of chime bars that we hardly ever played, and bought him a toy accordian one Christmas. He made his own drum set from a set of packaging boxes he found in our hall one day.  He also found his own backing tracks – music on his toy radio and on his toy laptop.  The words – well, they just come straight out of his heart – whatever he is feeling or thinking in the moment. 

You don’t need to be musical to inspire your child to play music. As long as they have a few instruments around them and listen to music they can find their way by themselves. In fact this is exactly what our sensitive intuitive children like doing. They like leading the way, finding their own inspiration and dancing to the beat of their own drum.

Below is a playlist including some of Luca’s creative musical antics. His first concert includes songs he knows but after that he lets loose.  On his journey we discover the magic and challenges of Luca’s extreme sound sensitivity.  His  journey also takes him through chronic fatigue and out the other side. I hope you find these videos inspiring. We look forward to your comments.

 

Creative Intuitive Children, Mules and Mountains!

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I sometimes feel like one of those Mums who thinks they know best for their child and pushes them into a particular direction.

Or . . .  do I know best for my child and just won’t give up working away in their best interests?

I think the latter. 

We have a 9 year old who is sensitive, empathic, intuitive and creative. 

When he was big enough to hold a pencil Luca started to draw.  He drew spirals round and round pushing hard into the paper. They had so much energy I could hardly look at them! I don’t think too much into these things – just that he had a lot of expressive energy.

When he could hold a paint brush Luca started to paint. His pictures evolved – first a snail, then a snake, then a train, then a washing machine – all in one picture with a running commentary! Everything was abstract – a friend was a vertical line of a particular colour and and an animal was a horizontal line. I thought this phase was amazing. Luca only painted what he felt – not what he saw.

When he was nearly 5, Luca started school. He was told to colour between the lines and that he shouldn’t have painted his man blue because men aren’t blue This was a sad time for my little expressive.

When he was 7, Luca couldn’t manage the restrictions of school any more so we bought him home. I gave him a paint brush but he didn’t want to paint. But he made little symbolic pictures to show how life had affected him in the last few years. These were his healing pictures.

When he was 8, Luca said it was babyish to paint and it was hard to encourage him to pick up a paint brush. When he did, though, he came alive and went back to his ‘feeling’ way of painting.

When he was 9, Luca decided it was really childish to paint from your feelings. He would only paint what he saw.  His last painting was a table with his first attempt at perspective. He got the idea watching ‘The Big Painting Challenge’ on TV.  On the table was an MP3 player. The background he left white.

When he was nearly 10, Luca refused to say or hear the words – Art, Music or Dance. I actually had to reverse the words and call them Tra, Cisum and Ecnad! He said these things were just not him and that he preferred animation and programming. I couldn’t encourage him to express his deeper self any more and so I stopped doing so.

Over the next months, Luca became fatigued and said he felt weak and ungrounded. I knew some of this was related to a visual processing condition called Irlens Syndrome but had a hunch that some of it could be that Luca was giving a lot to his projects but not really tanking himself up.

Then one day Luca asked me to do something we used to do together a lot – create a story to music with him. He said he wanted help with his energy and anxieties.  We created a story about his toy sheep Tres. She was a garden designer who ended up getting very tired because she gave all she had to design beautiful gardens for other people. It turned out she had never designed a beautiful garden for herself! Luca spoke, rapped and danced to some funky music and told the story. He had a big smile on his face and his heart just seemed to open.

When we had finished though, Luca said that he was never doing that again! When I said it was the way to tank him up and fill his heart, he said “I don’t deserve to be tanked up. I guess I will always be low hearted!” 

And so the journey with my mule up the mountain continues . . . !

Why have I told you this story?

It is so easy for children to start to feel that what comes from inside of them isn’t good enough. They think it isn’t as as good as what is already in the world.  It is our role as parents to keep helping them to go back to who they are – their personality, their passion, their heart, their voice.  

I know it is hard to keep encouraging children to paint and sing and speak and dance. You can feel like you’re trying to lead a mule up a mountain! But we do encourage our children to eat vegetables and get enough sleep and exercise.  If we don’t help our children to express themselves it prevents the flow of their life force. Yes, it is good to take in but also we need to pour out.

No matter the climate, the weather or the terrain, nothing is going to stop me leading my mule up the mountain! How about you?

 

Might your Sound Sensitive Child be Highly Musical?

This is what can happen when you give your sound sensitive child a keyboard, help them choose the sounds they like and teach them 3 chords. You don’t need to be musical yourself – just find a simple music theory book and teach yourself the basics about scales, chords and keys. Or even better  . . give the book to your child and let them teach you!