The biggest epidemic in our societies today is separation (disconnection with self and the world) It is this feeling that leads people to suffer with low self esteem, live a life where they find it difficult to be true to themselves and ultimately dis-ease. So why do we feel separate? We send our children to childcare and nursery school, separating them from the essential mother child bond for hours at a time before they are barely able to hold their heads up. Many families are separated by broken marriages. Many families who live together live quite separate lives. Many of us don’t know our neighbours. We travel separately and don’t meet in towns as we used to. Isn’t it amazing when it snows and we meet people in the street, walking to town to get some bread because the Waitrose delivery lorry couldn’t get through and our car won’t start? That’s my favourite day of the year!
Some of us choose a form of spirituality that continues in us this feeling of separateness. We separate ourselves from the rest of the world when we feel that we have the answers. We separate ourselves from the goodness of the world when we decide that we have to eat this food and that food and do this thing and that thing just to survive on the planet. We separate ourselves from our very beings when we try to empty ourselves in spiritual practices and meditation. We separate ourselves from God when we decide that we are in control and that we can use the power of our thoughts to draw to ourselves what we want.
Anxiety has little to do with being dependent on a significant other. This is simply the symptom. The cause is a sense of separation that runs deep in the core of our being. It may have happened at our birth or in childhood, we may have inherited it from our parents but however it happened, I believe it is our deepest journey to find our sense of safety within ourselves and the world. When we find that feeling, we will no longer tolerate separateness and we will do everything in our power to create strong bonds with our children, our families and the world. We will fall into God’s arms and gladly admit that we can’t do it on our own.
All we all really want is to feel safe, loved and at home in ourselves and the world.