Highly Sensitive Children, Mules and Mountains!

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I sometimes feel like one of those Mums who thinks they know best for their child and pushes them into a particular direction.

Or . . .  do I know best for my child and just won’t give up working away in their best interests?

I think the latter. 

We have a 9 year old who is very sensitive which also means he is empathic, intuitive and creative. 

When he was big enough to hold a pencil Luca started to draw.  He drew spirals round and round pushing hard into the paper. They had so much energy I could hardly look at them! I don’t think too much into these things – just that he had a lot of expressive energy.

When he could hold a paint brush Luca started to paint. His pictures evolved – first a snail, then a snake, then a train, then a washing machine – all in one picture with a running commentary! Everything was abstract – a friend was a vertical line of a particular colour and and an animal was a horizontal line. I thought this phase was amazing. Luca only painted what he felt – not what he saw.

When he was nearly 5, Luca started school. He was told to colour between the lines and that he shouldn’t have painted his man blue because men aren’t blue This was a sad time for my little expressive.

When he was 7, Luca couldn’t manage the restrictions of school any more so we bought him home. I gave him a paint brush but he didn’t want to paint. But he made little symbolic pictures to show how life had affected him in the last few years. These were his healing pictures.

When he was 8, Luca said it was babyish to paint and it was hard to encourage him to pick up a paint brush. When he did, though, he came alive and went back to his ‘feeling’ way of painting.

When he was 9, Luca decided it was really childish to paint from your feelings. He would only paint what he saw.  His last painting was a table with his first attempt at perspective. He got the idea watching ‘The Big Painting Challenge’ on TV.  On the table was an MP3 player. The background he left white.

Why have I told you this story?

It is so easy for children to start to feel that what comes from inside of them isn’t good enough. They think it isn’t as as good as what is already in the world.  It is our role as parents to keep helping them to go back to who they are – their personality, their passion, their heart, their voice.  

I know it is hard to keep encouraging children to paint and sing and speak and dance. You can feel like your are trying to lead a mule up a mountain! But we do encourage our children to eat vegetables and get enough sleep and exercise.  If we don’t help our children to express themselves it prevents the flow of their life force. Yes, it is good to take in but also we need to pour out.

No matter the climate, the weather or the terrain, nothing is going to stop me leading my mule up the mountain! How about you?

 

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About jenniewilliamsonline

Hi. Welcome to my blog. I am a visionary and my vision is to see more people healthy, happy and fulfilled. My Insights: Relationship is bigger than the interaction. Creativity is bigger than the project. Journey is bigger than the plans of the day. Vulnerability is the new self-sufficiency. Feeling good enough is the new enlightenment. Attachment is the new detachment. Sensitivity is being alive - Soulfulness is our deep heart-felt response to being alive. Separation is the biggest cause of dis-ease. Healing is transformation. The Christian message is an invitation to a warm embrace with God.
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