I woke up this morning to the sound of the alarm on my husband’s phone – a sound that I had chosen as the one I could tolerate the most. After using it for 6 months I no longer even think about my feelings about the sound. I just know it means ‘morning’ and morning is a good thing because I am happy with my life. I ran a bath from the shower head and put my few grains of vitamin c powder in to cancel out the chlorine. I use the shower head because if I use the taps I have water droplets that haven’t been cancelled out in the air for longer. Once the shower head is submerged everything is good. I heard the satisfying click of the shampoo bottle and poured out my no scent shampoo – except to me it doesn’t have no scent. It smells to me of fresh meadows every morning. When I’d bathed I reached for my towel and felt a little disappointed because my new deep pile cotton towel has very quickly become rough feeling to my skin. But it is warm and does wrap around me and dry me and so I let it off the hook! Then I dressed – in the clothes I have carefully chosen because they are soft, in colours that I love and are right for my mood and the season as I see it. They are plain or have patterns that please my eye and my heart. I ate my breakfast – sourdough toast (because I can only digest wheat when fermented), butter (the only dairy I can tolerate apart from sheep’s cheese) and strawberry jam (no added sugar for obvious reasons!) It really was delicious and a very good way to start every day for me.
In only half an hour I had encountered colour, sound, smell, touch, taste and of course my feelings. I’ve already encountered several challenges but it’s ok.
Life is to be encountered and embraced.
Listen the the World. Take your child to a waterfall, to the sea, let them hear the wind in the trees, talk about the sound of the bath running and the shampoo bottle, the sound of scissors on paper, having their hair brushed, the noise of the marble on the marble run, the sound of bacon sizzling in a pan, the hum of the computer, the buzz of a bee. They may like or not like these things but it is an adventure finding out. Do this with all your child’s senses – smell the bacon and the seaweed together, taste the strawberry and the gooseberry, touch the rough bark on the tree and the smooth pebble, feel your frustration and your sadness as well as your success and your happiness. Share your feelings. Talk about your feelings. Dance them, paint them, rap them . . .
Think before you offer noise cancelling headphones, white noise CD’s, weighted blankets, joint compression, pushing, pulling, lifting, seam free clothing, screened workstations – Could you help your child by simply helping them to embrace LIFE?